These workshops & Keynotes will be recorded live at the
14th Annual 2010 Smart Marriages Conference and will be available on
DVD, CD or MP3 at 800-241-7785 or at
http://www.playbacknow.com/smartmarriages
Audio: CD or MP3/Ipod downloads $15.95 each.
Video DVDs are available of all Keynote sessions - $29.95
Clinicians should consider Marriage Education Programs taught in
Training Institutes as well as the TOOB programs to gain skills to use in your
clinical work or to add lasses to augment your practice. We could literally
list ALL the Training Institutes and workshops as suitable for clinician work, but
will limit this list to a few that are more targeted to clincical practice.
Training Institutes are highly intensive, skills-focused sessions and will not be recorded.
105 Two Day - Wednesday & Thursday, July 7 & 8 - No Spouse Discount
The Gottman Method: Level I: Bridging the Chasm
Vagdevi Meunier, PsyD
Learn the renowned research-based Gottman approach to help couples
compassionately manage their conflicts, deepen their friendship and
intimacy, and share their life purpose and dreams. Includes a 300-page Clinical
Manual with new relationship assessment questionnaires and clinical
interventions. View new films from the Gottmans' clinical office.
For use only in clinical settings. No spouse discount.
Click for more information: http://www.smartmarriages.com/gottman.html
110 Two Days - Wednesday & Thursday, July 7 & 8
CompassionPower Boot Camp & Love Without Hurt
Steven Stosny, PhD
Qualify to teach the intensive 3-day Boot Camp to reduce anger, resentment and
emotional abuse as well as the "Love Without Hurt" 8-hr program to add to any marriage
education course - designed to recognize & prevent domestic violence and child abuse.
These programs include emotional regulation skills that make it easier to learn marriage skills.
If you don't want to teach the classes, use the skills in clinical work or any setting. $100 spouse discount.
Click for more information: http://www.smartmarriages.com/stosny.html
115 Two Days - Wednesday & Thursday, July 7 & 8
Torn Asunder & Close Calls: Mending & Preventing Infidelity
(Subtitle: DRUNK WITH LOVE: Infatuation, Emotional Affairs, and Sleeping Around)
Dave Carder, MA
Qualify as an instructor to teach two programs Torn Asunder & Close Calls with a structure
to stabilize marriages in the first critical 90 days; differentiate types of infidelity; start forgiveness
and trust building; and to help others avoid the slippery slope. $100 spouse discount.
Click for more information:http://www.smartmarriages.com/carder.html
908 Two Day - Monday & Tuesday, July 12 & 13Hold Me Tight: Emotionally Focused Interventions
Kathryn Rheem, MS, George Faller, MS
Understand the exquisite logic of love – the concept of "effective dependency"; cycles
that sabotage connection; music of the dance; and how to shape conversations to
foster a secure lasting bond. Use the principles from Emotionally Focused Therapy in
your Hold Me Tight classes or in clinical settings.
Click for more information: http://www.smartmarriages.com/eft.10.html
910 One Day - Monday, July 12
Paradoxes of Desire
Esther Perel, MA
Why does great sex so often fade for couples who continue to love each other
as much as ever? Why does good intimacy not guarantee good sex? Can we want
what we already have? Why does the transition to parenthood so often spell
erotic disaster in couples? Why is the forbidden so erotic? When you love,
how does it feel, and when you desire, how is it different?
Click for more information: http://www.smartmarriages.com/perel.html
911 One Day - Monday, July 12
Working with Couples and Sexual Addiction
Mark Laaser, PhD, MDiv
Learn crucial tools for working with couples that are dealing with the pain of sexual addiction.
Recognize the symptoms and develop a recovery plan for the addict, spouse and couple.
$50 spouse discount. Click for more information:http://www.smartmarriages.com/laaser.html
WORKSHOPS:
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201
The Five Love Languages – TOOB
Gary Chapman, PhD
Help couples learn to speak their spouses’
“love language”, make the transition from the
“in love” to the “covenant love” stage and avoid
the trap of getting the “tingles” for someone
other than their spouse.
202
Mindful Marriage
Pat Love, EdD, Jon Carlson, PsyD
Learn to apply mindfulness techniques, practiced
for over 2500 years, as an add-on to marriage
counseling or education to increase awareness,
kindness, acceptance, and love.
203
The Couple Checkup
Peter Larson, PhD, Ron Deal, MMFT
Add this research-based online assessment to
improve premarital (dating, engaged, cohabiting),
married, or remarried programs. Free Discussion
Guides, Leader’s Guide & Group Reports.
204
Keeping Love Alive – TOOB
Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW
This solution-oriented, strengths-based Divorce
Busting program can help even last-ditch couples
avoid divorce, even if only one spouse attends.
Teach classes or use the techniques in your practice.
205
ThriveSphere – TOOB
Sherod Miller, PhD
Learn to facilitate this comprehensive cost-effective,
web-based inventory for premarital and marital
self/partner/relationship awareness. Part 2 training
online at your convenience. Usually $85, here it’s FREE.
206
The 7 Stages of Marriage – TOOB
Rita DeMaria, PhD
Give couples a roadmap to help them understand
the journey, anticipate the stages, and succeed at
the mission with commitment and passion intact.
Use with any marriage education program.
210
1-2-3 Magic
Tom Phelan, PhD
Teach parents easy-to-follow steps for disciplining
kids ages 2-12 without arguing, yelling or spanking
and when – and how – silence can speak louder
than words.
211
Healing From Upsets
Susan Heitler, PhD
Just as physical wounds need cleansing to prevent
infection, effective couple healing strategies cleanse
emotional wounds to ease hurt feelings, anger and
resentment – and also to prevent repeat episodes.
212
Money Habitudes: The Last Taboo – TOOB
Syble Solomon, MEd
A unique card deck gives instant, life-changing
insights into attitudes about money. Teach groups,
use with individuals, couples, youth, or add to any
marriage program.
215
Heart Rhythm Practice
Dan McMannis, MEd, Jana Staton, PhD
Teach couples a new way to reduce stress, heal
old wounds, increase trust, optimism and connection
by synchronizing heart, body & brain in a positive,
energetic state. Experiential.
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Friday Workshops, July 9, 2-3:30pm
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301
Love Without Hurt
Steven Stosny, PhD
Learn how to use this approach in marriage education
settings to help overcome entrenched resentment, anger,
verbal and emotional abuse BEFORE you try to teach
communication skills.
303
Dating and Cohabiting Couples
Scott Stanley, PhD, Galena Rhoades, PhD
The latest research on relationship formation and
commitment identifies the most effective ways to
recruit and work with dating and cohabiting couples
and singles to impact their future marital success.
304
Through Sickness
Hank Sibbing, JD, MS, Jon Carlson, PsyD, EdD
Illness can strike any time, but as we age sickness
increases and marriage becomes less about fun and
romance and more about survival and coping. Learn
crucial deep love practices to help couples deal with
these life changes.
307
Hot Monogamy: The Sexy Brain
Pat Love, EdD
A sexy brain is not only the cure for the lazy libido but
it's all you need to create an exciting love life. Come
learn the basics – as well as the secrets of sexually
satisfied couples.
308
Affairs: Step-by-Step to Recovery
Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW
There isn’t one right approach, but it helps to have a
map of the territory. How much disclosure? What should
you do when the affair is on-going? Learn a flexible
approach that works!
318
Genograms – TOOB
Rita DeMaria, PhD
Easy-to-use tools explore family patterns (cut-offs,
legacies, addictions, etc) that influence relationships
plus 5 exercises to strengthen love and commitment.
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Saturday Workshops, July 10, 10:15–11:45am
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401
IMAGO Dialogue
Harville Hendrix PhD, Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD
Structured dialogue, the very core of the powerful
Imago model, helps couples learn to switch from
monologue to dialogue and from judgment to
curiosity and affirmation to make important
new love connections. Experiential.
403
Reprogramming Your Relationship
Terry Hargrave, PhD
The best change is built on accurate insights
combined with skills and practice. Help couples
see into their past plus give them step-by-step
practices targeted at both cognitive and
behavioral change.
404
Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It!
Pat Love, EdD, Steven Stosny, PhD
Learn an approach that combines brain research
and a set of brief behaviors guaranteed to strengthen
marriage. Best of all, men can do it without feeling
they have to behave like women.
405
Marriage LINKS – TOOB
John Van Epp, PhD
LINKS (Lasting Intimacy through Nurturance,
Knowledge and Skills) teaches the Relationship
Attachment Model (RAM) for maintaining intimacy,
trust, sexuality, forgiveness and mutuality.
406
Sherod’s Squares
Sherod Miller, PhD
Get to the heart of a relationship in two minutes
with this powerful, engaging non-verbal technique.
Use in classes or clinical settings for uncannily
accurate assessment and intervention.
407
Ecstasy Without Guilt
Joe Beam
Understand the inherent causes of “low” and “no”
sex marriages and an approach to help more
“conservative” couples find excitement and fulfillment.
409
Mastering the Mysteries of Stepfamilies
Nancy Landrum, MPsy
Use tools like The Nails game, True/False Quiz,
the Stepfamily House, Stumbling & Building Blocks
Guidelines to help stepcouples learn how to manage
the challenges over which they have control.
410
ScreamFree Marriage
Hal Runkel, MS
A revolutionary program that helps couples
calm down, grow up, and get closer by learning
to embrace conflict and practice a calm
self-representation as foundations of a
great marriage.
411
Positivity Transforms Relationships
Vagdevi Meunier, PsyD
Use Positive Psychology concepts to help
couples build gratitude, compassion, curiosity,
admiration, and other approach-oriented skills
to transform relationships and boost satisfaction
and success.
412
Mindful Way Through Alcohol Abuse
Jon Carlson, PsyD, EdD
The Mindful Way, through tools like breathing
and "urge surfing", helps couples and families
achieve balance & learn either to use alcohol in
moderation or maintain their goal of abstinence.
417
Before the Falls: Divorce Reconciliation Project
Bill Doherty, PhD, Don Gordon, PhD
Divert divorcing couples using an online program
that teaches conflict resolution & cooperation skills
and engages attorneys and counselors who encourage
and teach the steps to reconciliation.
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501
Mars and Venus: Grief and Loss
John Gray, PhD
The loss of a loved one – partner, parent, child
– can be the most challenging experience of a
lifetime. While loss is inevitable, suffering is not.
Learn strategies to help Mars & Venus (they
grieve differently) recover.
502
The Miracle of Connection
Hedy Schleifer, MA
Seven principles and practices will change
the way you think about relationships and help
you guide couples to embrace differences, harness
passion, and deepen connections.
503
Secrets of Happily Married Women
Scott Haltzman, MD
Help wives become energized and find
contentment in the face of the challenges of
balancing feminist ideals, traditional roles,
work, self, kids, and well-intentioned advice
about having it all.
506
Marriage-Friendly Therapy
Bill Doherty, PhD
Marital therapy is a challenge. Learn about the
essential skills and values of a good marital
therapist and about an exciting new resource
for locating these therapists in your community.
507
Internet Sex Addiction
Mark Laaser, PhD, MDiv
Porn, the #1 seller on the internet, has become
extremely damaging to marriage. Learn to
recognize the symptoms and to prevent and
help overcome addiction to internet sex.
508
Torn Asunder: Mending Infidelity – TOOB
Dave Carder, MA
This model provides a structure to stabilize
marriages in the crucial first 90 days; skills to
differentiate types of infidelity and to start
forgiveness and trust building; plus homework.
513
Relationship Enhancement (RE) Programs
Mary Ortwein, MS
Teach couples how to access deep empathy
to build connection, intimacy, openness, trust,
and love while creating mutually-satisfying
solutions to their most challenging issues.
517
Emotional and Relational Intelligence (ERQ)
Gary Oliver, PhD, MDiv, Matthew Turvey, PsyD
Use ERQ principles & the new ERQ Profile to help
corporations & couples build Relational
Wellness at work & home and increase
personal/professional effectiveness & profits.
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601
Married Sex for Men
Michael Metz, PhD, Barry McCarthy, PhD
Ten things men need to know to deal with
the common problems – low desire, porn
addiction, erectile dysfunction, premature
ejaculation – to build a healthy, pleasurable
sex life.
602
Forgiveness for Real
Terry Hargrave, PhD
Genuine forgiveness must begin by healing
the pain caused by violations of trust and
love. A clear-cut approach illustrated with
case examples includes tools for dealing
with cutoffs, lying, betrayal, and affairs.
603
The Gottman Method for Couples Counseling
Vagdevi Meunier, PsyD
Overview of the Gottman research including
the Masters and Disasters of Marriage, the
friendship, conflict, and shared meaning
components of a relationship, and the main
predictors of relationship breakup.
605
Deep Friendship/Shared Goals
Blaine Fowers, PhD
Learn exercises to foster deep friendship, the
keystone to a vibrant, lasting marriage. Spousal
friends bring out the best in each other, want
the best for each other, and pursue shared goals.
606
Trauma-Based Couples
Carolyn Curtis, PhD
A history of trauma, abuse & neglect can make
it difficult for individuals to benefit from relationship
interventions. Learn to adapt programs to help
even the most traumatized and fragile heal and grow.
608
Healing From Affairs
Anne and Brian Bercht
Based on a 3-day intensive weekend for couples
in affair-recovery, this program outlines
key steps to healing a marriage – designed and
presented by a couple who has been there.
609
Children of Divorce: The Tough Truth – TOOB
Carri and Gordon Taylor, MA, MFT
Take an in-depth look at the children of divorce
and their families, at the multi-generational impact
of divorce and learn how the extended family can
be empowered as a tool of healing.
613
Ethics Part I: Confidentiality
Mary Ortwien, MS, Rita DeMaria, PhD
How do you keep a couple’s personal business
confidential in ME classes? What if you learn of
abuse or dangerous behavior? Learn guidelines
for handling confidentiality dilemmas & referrals.
See #713.
614
ProSAAM: Strong African American Marriages – TOOB
Tera Hurt, PhD, Regero Sampson, MSW
Learn how to deliver this PREP-based, innovative
program to African American couples. Includes
effects of racism, using prayer for conflict
resolution and growth, and retention.
615
Men and Commitment
Paul Giblin, PhD, MDiv
Explore the nature of commitment, how the
culture fails to support it, why men struggle
with it, and what we can learn from happily
married men. Clinical/educational applications
across the life-cycle.
616
Marriage and Depression
Dennis Lowe, PhD, Emily Scott-Lowe, PhD
Marriages in which one spouse is depressed are
nine times more likely to divorce. Teach couples
to identify depression and the skills and resources
to help them cope effectively.
617
Domestic Violence: To Screen, Or Not To Screen?
Scott Stanley, PhD, Anne Menard, Patrick Patterson, MSW, MPH
That’s just one question marriage & relationship
educators must ask. How do we best protect –
and serve – couples? Lessons learned in the PREP
program plus tools & guidelines from the NHMRC.
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Sunday Workshops, July 11, 2-3:30pm
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703
Military Couples and EFT
Kathryn Rheem, MS
Use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with
couples impacted by 21st century war to help
them understand the trauma-induced shut-down
in their interpersonal relationships, and to reconnect.
706
Dating and Marriage: 4 Keys to Success
John Buri, PhD
Help singles/singles-again understand the essentials
of a working partnership, myths that undermine success,
& tools to choose wisely. Understand selfism, maximizing,
& growth motives.
707
Blending Sexual Meanings
Michael Metz, PhD
Heal couples fractured due to problems with male
sexuality: porn, strip clubs, etc. by integrating
sexual meaning more deeply into the marriage
to strengthen cohesion and promote intimacy.
708
The Four Axis of Infidelity
Rick Reynolds, MSW, MPA
Assessment of the four axis of infidelity along with
analysis of the martial power structure and infidelity
type allows for a development of couple-specific,
targeted, successful treatment.
709
Beating the Odds: Successful Remarriage
Barry McCarthy, PhD
The good news is that remarried couples can improve
their odds. Examine strategies and techniques which
predict successful remarriage and identify common
traps and how to avoid them.
712
Divorce Prevention: Controlled Separation – TOOB
Elsie Radtke, MEd
Help stalemated couples restore their marriage
using time-limited guidelines, assessment, contracts,
and “active waiting” skills that put children first and
avoid extended-family trauma.
713
Ethics Part II: Boundaries
Mary Ortwein, MS, Rita DeMaria, PhD
Prevent, contain, and resolve boundary, slippery slope, & dual relationship challenges illustrated by
10 scenarios common to working with couples in
clinical or marriage education settings. See #613.
715
Special Needs Children
Laura Marshak, PhD, Fran Prezant, MEd
Marriages with special needs children face higher
rates of distress and breakdown. Learn key
guidelines & specific strategies to help them
stay connected.
716
DYALOG - Psychodynamic Self-Help For couples
Bernd Boettger, DiplPsych
DYALOG, popular across Europe, teaches a new
method of dialogue that combines couple dynamics,
and group, conscious & unconscious processes to
804
Crazy About You: Scorched-Earth Love
Steven Stosny, PhD
Jealousy is a crucial emotional "signal." But when
perverted through blame and control, it can cause
psychosis, misery and divorce. Discover the road
to understanding and healing.
805
The PeopleMap
Mike Lillibridge, PhD
This self-scoring, 7-item, 5-min tool is 95% accurate
in measuring 4 personality types. Learn how to
strengthen your marriage based on maps of
your personality strengths & styles.
807
Marital Sex As it Ought to Be
Barry McCarthy, PhD
When it's good, it’s great. When it's bad or
non-existent, it's a bummer. Learn what it takes
to have great marital sex – intimate and erotic –
and how to prevent and resolve sexual problems.
808
Close Calls: Avoiding Adultery
Dave Carder, MA
Advice from thousands of adulterers help us
identify our own high risk situations and
“Dangerous Partner Profiles” and provides
ideas for using Close Call experiences to actually
strengthen marital intimacy.
810
Hot Latin Lovers: Latino Marriage
Joseph Hernandez, PhD, Ana Morante, MS, CFLE
We know the stereotypes: Latinos are passionate,
the men don't communicate, women are more
mothers than wives. Learn to use our strengths
to make our marriages nuestro "Vinculo mas Fuerte".
816
Healthy Lifestyles = Healthy Relationships
Pamela Holtzman, RN, MSW
There’s lots more to it than communication skills.
Learn nutrition, exercise, and stress management
“skills” that are proven to reduce burnout &
depression and increase happiness, well-being,
& love.
817
Staying Present
Karen Sherman, PhD
Is your relationship in trouble because of old baggage?
Learn tricks to stop reacting to old injuries – often
unconsciously – and to live and love in the present.
The sessions below were recorded live at the
13th Annual 2009 Smart Marriages Conference and are available onDVD, CD or MP3 at 800-241-7785 or at
http://www.iplaybacksmartmarriages.comAudio: CD or MP3/Ipod downloads $15.95 each.
Video DVDs are available of all Keynote sessions - $29.95
Keynotes & Banquets:
B-Tues, July 7, 6:30pm
BANQUET Keynote
The Five Languages of Apology
Gary Chapman, PhD
Where do we learn whether or not, and how, to apologize?
Learn to help couples identify their own and their spouse’s
apology styles and how to speak their language.
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P-2 Thurs, July 9, 8:30am
Living With Cohabitation
Scott Stanley, PhD
Galena Rhoades, PhD
While cohabitation before marriage has become common, it remains
associated with increased risks. Exciting NEW findings will be presented
along with empirically-based strategies for your work in marriage and
relationship education.
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P-3 Thurs, July 9, 11:30am
Luncheon Plenary
Generosity and Thrift
Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, PhD
Thrift? Does it mean penny-pinching and belt-tightening, suffering and
self-denial? That's what many think but thrift comes from the word "thriving"
and being thrifty actually makes life and marriages more joyful and free from
anxiety. Best of all, it is tied to generosity, because it creates an abundance
of good things to share with others.
Money Habitudes
Syble Solomon, MEd
The truth is that money – the actual dollar amount – is not the #1 cause of
conflict in marriage, it's what it represents: power, control, love, freedom, security,
etc. Use the Money Habitudes card deck to help couples gain understanding
and mastery of this tricky, slippery slope.
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P-4 Thurs, July 9, 3:45pm
I Say a Little Prayer For You
Steven Beach, PhD, Frank Fincham, PhD, Tera Hurt, PhD
Learn how this project added prayer to engage rural African
Americans to create powerful lasting change by engaging deeper
meaning sytems; how prayer enhanced learning; and how to add
prayer to your work with individuals or couples in clinical or educational
settings or as an add-on to any program.
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B-Thurs, July 9, 7pm
BANQUET Keynote
Mars and Venus in the Bedroom
John Gray, PhD
Sex is not just about physical attraction – it's also about knowledge, communication,
understanding, and health. Learn how to help couples communicate their
sexual needs in a romantic but effective ways and how to have satisfying sex in
long-term, monogamous relationships. Adults only.
P-5 Fri, July 10, 8:30am
Mating in Captivity
Esther Perel, MA This provocative new take on intimacy and sex grapples with the obstacles
and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our
pursuit of passion.Explore the paradoxical relation of domesticity and eroticism,
challenge the inevitable sexual decline and boredom, introduce innovative strategies to
restore sexual aliveness.Help couples sustain desire over the long haul
while respecting needs for safety and stability by presenting
Couples Sexual Styles
Barry McCarthy, PhD
When it's good, it’s great. When it's bad or non-existent, it's a bummer.
Learn what it takes to have great marital sex – intimate and erotic – and
how helping couples understand the concept and basics of Sexual Styles
can prevent and resolve sexual problems.
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P-6 Fri, July 10, 12 noon
Lunch Plenary
Infidelity Busting
Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW
Although infidelity does not have to be a marital deal breaker, it is unquestionably
the biggest challenge millions of couples face each year. Unfortunately, time
alone is not the great healer. Learn a step-by-step, no-nonsense, proactive process
for helping even 11th-hour couples heal from infidelity.
Close Calls
Dave Carder, MA
Advice from thousands of adulterers helps couples identify their
own high risk situations and “Dangerous Partner Profiles”
and provides ideas for using Close Call experiences to actually
strengthen marital intimacy.
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P-7 Fri, July 10, 4pm
Marriage: An Inside Job
Pat Love, EdD
Steven Stosny, PhD
Current research reveals seismic shifts in beliefs about marriage. People
often don't get it that Frank Pittman had it right: the purpose of marriage
isn't to make you happy, it's to make you married. They marry because they
like the way they are with their partner; then divorce because they don't like
what their partner has made them become. Our challenge is to give
couples new information to help them celebrate their marriages, themselves,
and the times – from the inside out.
P-8 Friday Night Live, July 10, 7:30pm
Imago Dialogue Live!
Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhDs
Structured Imago Dialogue can be the most powerful and effective path
for emotional healing and spiritual growth. Experience Dialogue Live and learn how to
help couples understand how to ‘stop talking, and start connecting’ with each other.
P-9 Sat, July 11, 8:30am
Hold Me Tight II
Sue Johnson, EdD
Attachment theory provides the first clear evidence-based model of adult love.
Use the Emotionally Focused approach with couples who face the extraordinary
challenges of our times – including military couples facing deployment and couples
dealing with financial meltdown. Help them see their dance and use key steps and
conversations to guide them into a new, loving, healing ”interdepen–dance”.
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P-10 Sat, July 11, 11:30am
Lunch Plenary
Shared Goals
Blaine Fowers, PhD
Marriage begins with romantic love and sexual chemistry, but a lifelong marriage
demands more. Help couples learn to discover the joy and power of Shared Goals and
how Shared Goals can take them beyond individual pursuits and foster deep
Character Friendship – the cornerstone to a vibrant and lasting marriage.
Boomers on the Edge
Terry Hargrave, PhD
Boomers face three challenges exacerbated by the economic meltdown: caring for
aging parents, adult children moving home, and not having enough assets to retire.
How do we apply what we know to be able to help this stressed generation?
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Thursday Workshops, July 9, 10–11:30am
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201
Infidelity – and Forgiveness?
Janis Spring, PhD
It takes two. Teach partners the intimate dance
of taking responsibility, experiencing heartfelt
apology, letting go of pain, and learning the lessons
that will help them repair and grow.
202
Marriage LINKS – TOOB
John Van Epp, PhD
LINKS (Lasting Intimacy through Nurturance, Knowledge
and Skills) teaches the Relationship Attachment Model (RAM)
for maintaining intimacy, trust, sexuality, forgiveness and
mutuality.
203
Hot Monogamy: The Sexy Brain
Pat Love, EdD
A sexy brain is not only the cure for the lazy libido
but it's all you need to create an exciting love life.
Come learn the basics – as well as the secrets of
sexually satisfied couples.
204
Divorce Busting Programs – TOOB
Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW
Marriage Breakthrough & Keeping Love Alive: two
programs to help even last-ditch couples avoid divorce,
even if only one spouse attends. Teach classes or use
the techniques in your practice.
206
Why Singles Aren't Marrying
Beverly Rodgers, PhD, Tom Rodgers, PhD
Bust the myths that keep scared-silly singles stuck
in unhealthy relationship patterns by equipping them
with skills and information that will help them move
confidently towards marriage.
207
Family Wellness: Skills for Fragile Families
George Doub, MDiv, Erin Simile
Teach skills to at-risk families – never-married, teen,
single parent, stepfamily, military, those with abuse
– to handle extraordinary challenges and move toward
greater stability.
208
The Seven Desires of Every Heart
Mark Laaser, PhD, MDiv
All couple problems can be traced to unmet desires of
the heart. Identify the 7 desires in terms of Satir’s Iceberg
Model and use them to help couples reach deeper spiritual
connection & intimacy
209
The Stepfamily Journey: Not for Wimps
Elizabeth Einstein, MA
Learn to provide couples with a trail map to master
stepfamily developmental tasks. Understand emotional
baggage, bonding, loyalty, and discipline.
210
The 7 Stages of Marriage – TOOB
Rita DeMaria, PhD
Give couples a roadmap to help them understand the
journey, anticipate the stages, and succeed at the mission
with commitment and passion intact. Use with any marriage
education program.
211
Active Parenting of Teens – TOOB
Michael Popkin, PhD, MEd
Parenting teens can stress any marriage. This video-based
communication/discipline program empowers parents to
help their teens (and their marriage) not only survive – but thrive!
213
The Five Keys to an Incredible Marriage – TOOB
Tim Gardner, MA, DMin
Teach couples to remember 5 proven keys to a great,
fulfilling marriage on one hand…and it is guaranteed they
will never forget them. Faith-based, entertaining, interactive
& research-based. Usually $29.95, free to workshop attendees.
214
Married and Loving It – TOOB
Barbara Petty, PhD
This 5-week, skill-based program always has full classes
and waiting lists. Learn what makes the program so successful
and how to replicate it in your community.
215
PREPARE/ENRICH: New Customized Version
Peter Larson, PhD, Matthew Turvey, PsyD
Learn to use the improved online format with report for
couples to keep, new profiles, workbooks, etc for assessing
dating, engaged, married, & remarried couples. For clinician
& lay use.
216
Strengthening Marriage in the Black Community
Diann Dawson, JD, MSW, Nisa Muhammad,
Patrick Patterson, MSW, MPH, Rozario Slack, DMin
Black Marriage Day, community leadership, getting
denominations and organizations on board, fatherhood,
kids, special curricula – brainstorm ideas for revitalizing
Black marriages.
217
Aging and Dying Alone: Family Fragmentation in America
Elizabeth Marquardt, MDiv
Widespread divorce, remarriage, and re-divorce predict
an era of uncertain obligation, conflicted care-giving, and
complicated grief for adults who are dealing with the aging
of divorced parents and stepparents.
218
Strong Bonds: Helping Those That Serve
Scott Stanley, PhD, Michael Strohm, MDiv, MS,
Howard Markman, PhD
Learn how the Army is strengthening marriage, exciting
research about what works, new PTSD findings, and how
the research will inform future work with young military
and civilian couples.
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Thursday Workshops, July 9, 2-3:30pm
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301
Marriage-Friendly Therapy
Bill Doherty, PhD
Marital therapy is a challenge. Learn about the essential
skills and values of a good marital therapist and about an
exciting new resource for locating these therapists in your
community.
302
Internet Sex Addiction
Mark Laaser, PhD, MDiv
Porn, the #1 seller on the internet, has become extremely
damaging to marriage. Learn to recognize the symptoms and
to prevent and help overcome addiction to internet sex.
303
Love Without Hurt
Steven Stosny, PhD
Learn how to use this approach in marriage education settings
to help overcome entrenched resentment, anger, verbal and
emotional abuse BEFORE you try to teach communication skills.
305
The Second Half – TOOB
Claudia and David Arp, MSW
Teach empty nesters to reinvent their marriage, avoid divorce,
and make the rest the best. Great for mentor couples to teach
in church or community. Bonus "Dates for Empty Nesters" material.
306
Dating and Marriage: 4 Keys to Success
John Buri, PhD
Help singles/singles-again understand the essentials of a
working partnership, myths that undermine success, & tools to
choose wisely. Understand selfism, locus of control, & growth buds.
307
Reptiles in Love
Don Ferguson, PhD
Normal mind/body defenses protect us in danger, but can
damage intimate communication. Teach couples to self-soothe
and, then, use higher brain functioning, empathy, humor, and creativity.
308
Infidelity Recovery Strategies
Rick Reynolds, MSW, MPA
Learn to identify the motivations of both hurt and unfaithful
spouses and help them develop empathy, stop intrusive thoughts
and endless questions, and reach forgiveness and healing.
309
Stepping Together for Stepfamilies – TOOB
Brian Higginbotham, PhD
Learn key strategies to supplement any marriage education
program or create a stand-alone class for stepcouples and
children. Information for work with ethnic minorities.
312
Who Am I and Who Are You?
Galena Rhoades, PhD
Learn how PREP is introducing personality testing like The
Primary Colors Personality Tool to build understanding &
acceptance in marriage. Myths, research, and tools you can use.
318
Genograms – TOOB
Rita DeMaria, PhD
Easy-to-use tools explore family patterns (cut-offs, legacies,
addictions, etc) that influence relationships plus 5 exercises
to strengthen love and commitment.
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Friday Workshops, July 10, 10:15–11:45am
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401
Sherod’s Squares
Sherod Miller, PhD
Get to the heart of a relationship in two minutes with this
powerful, engaging non-verbal technique. Use in classes or
clinical settings for uncannily accurate assessment and intervention!
402
De-Mystifying the Relational Space
Hedy Schleifer, MA
Seven principles and practices will change the way you
think about relationships and help you guide couples to
embrace differences, harness passion, and deepen connections.
403
Infinite Relationships: Expanding Options
Don Ferguson, PhD
The most successful marriage programs engage one’s
highest reasoning abilities, curiosity, & creativity. This program
mixes education, retreats, and therapy to tap infinite possibilities.
404
Relationship Enhancement (RE)
Rob Scuka, PhD
Teach couples how to access deep empathy to build connection,
intimacy, openness, trust, and love while creating mutually-satisfying
solutions to their most challenging issues.
405
The First Dance: Wedding Prep – TOOB
Bill Doherty, PhD, Elizabeth Thomas
Wedding planning often involves complex, conflicted couple &
family dynamics. Learn how to plan a “family-systems” wedding
that will lay a solid foundation for life-long marriage.
406
The Essential Humility of Marriage
Terry Hargrave, PhD
Stability, security, and sincerity are the "right stuff" that help
couples move past "me and my happiness" to the respect,
reliability, and sacrifice that produce solid marriages and secure kids.
407
Ecstasy Without Guilt
Joe Beam
Understand the inherent causes of “low” and “no” sex marriages
and an approach to help more “conservative” couples find excitement
and fulfillment.
408
Rethinking Infidelity
Esther Perel, MA
Explore the meanings of affairs (past, present, fantasized or real)
and the complexities of marriage, sex, and monogamy as you help
couples rebuild trust and intimacy and turn crisis into opportunity.
409
Stepcouples: Me or the Kids?? – TOOB
Carri Taylor, Gordon Taylor, MFT
After the fantasy of courtship, reality sets in – delivered by
the kids, ex-spouses, money, and ‘no time for us’. Teach couples
to master the challenges, reclaim the territory, and prevent re-divorce.
417
Marriage Education con Limón
Frank Fuentes, Rolando Díaz-Loving, PhD, Alicia La Hoz, PsyD
Understand the cultural values, roles, and beliefs that are
important to Latino couples and how to add Hispanic-focused
supplemental modules to your healthy marriage programs.
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Friday Workshops, July 10, 2:15–3:45pm
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501
Untangling The Web of Jealousy
Lori Gordon, PhD
Jealousy highjacks our thinking brain, causes developmental
regression, and destroys love. Use the unique insights of the
PAIRS Jealousy Loop & Tool Kit to tame the green-eyed monster.
502
Soul Healers Leaders Training – TOOB
Beverly and Tom Rodgers, PhDs
Practical, easy-to-learn tools for professionals or lay mentors
to help couples face even the most difficult, on-the-brink problems:
adultery, addiction, abuse or other deep wounds.
503
THRIVE – TOOB
Sherod Miller, PhD
Learn to facilitate this new cost-effective, web-based inventory
for premarital and marital self/partner relationship awareness
& conversation. Part 2 training online at your convenience. Usually
$85, here it’s FREE.
504
The Prayer Journal - TOOB
Scott Stanley, PhD, Tera Hurt, PhD, Regero Sampson, MSW
Create powerful, lasting change by engaging deeper meaning
systems. Use with individuals or couples, in counseling or education,
as an add-on to any program, in any setting: couples, men’s groups, etc.
505
Can This Conflict Be Resolved?
Susan Heitler, PhD
Most couples have issues they disagree on over and over again.
Some experts suggest just accepting the differences. Learn
to help couples aim higher and bring all their conflicts to win-win.
507
Married Sex for Men
Michael Metz, PhD, Barry McCarthy, PhD
Ten things men need to know to deal with the common problems
– low desire, porn addiction, erectile dysfunction, premature
ejaculation – to build a healthy, pleasurable sex life.
508
Rebuilding Intimacy After An Affair
Doug Snyder, PhD
This 3-stage approach helps couples contain turmoil, understand
the factors contributing to the affair and impeding recovery, and
take specific steps toward individual and relationship health.
511
Resiliency in Families: The Stress Antidote
Scott Haltzman, MD
Bad things can happen to even the best families. Use the Resiliency
Survival Kit and The Secrets of Happy Families survey to teach
families how to bounce back from whatever hits.
515
Ready For Love
Mary Ortwein, MS
This program designed to meet the needs of singles or solos
(those whose partners won't attend), includes mate selection,
expectations, boundaries, abuse, etc.
516
Forgive Me, Forgive Me Knot
Rick Marks, PhD, Don and Angie Power
Forgiveness is essential to relationship healing. This model
identifies irrational beliefs (Forgiveness Knots) and teaches
the Firstone intervention to help couples heal.
518
Parenting Grandchildren
Carri and Gordon Taylor, MA, MFT
Six million kids are being raised by grandparents. Teach
couples how to realign roles, lifestyles, finances, and retirement
expectations and enjoy their marriages while raising incredible kids.
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Saturday Workshops, July 11, 10-11:30am
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601
The Love Path
Joe Beam
Learn how this visual model and a dynamic group process
help married couples understand how to fall in love all over
again whether in crisis or simply in search of deeper satisfaction.
603
Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It!
Pat Love, EdD, Steven Stosny, PhD
Learn an approach that combines brain research and a set
of brief behaviors guaranteed to strengthen marriage. Best
of all, men can do it without feeling they have to behave
like women.
604
Secrets of Happily Married Women
Scott Haltzman, MD
Help wives become energized and find contentment in the
face of the challenges of balancing feminist ideals, traditional
roles, work, self, kids, and well-intentioned advice about having it all.
605
Try To See It My Way
B. Janet Hibbs, PhD
Fairness is the key to a happy, lasting marriage. Help
couples solve the ancient question of “what’s fair?” in 21st
century marriage, with insights from neurobiology and relationship
ethics.
607
Sexual Bargaining: From Lysistrata to Sarah Palin
Larry Little, JD
Help couples learn how to identify toxic sexual bargaining
and replace it with mediation-based skills that will lead
to a satisfying, partnership marriage.
608
Beyond Affairs: Prevention and Recovery
Anne and Brian Bercht
Help couples not only recover from infidelity, but make
their marriage even stronger and how to establish a BAN
recovery support group in your community. ’08 SM Impact Award recipient.
611
The Couple Checkup
Peter Larson, PhD, Matthew Turvey, PsyD
Add this research-based online assessment to improve
premarital (dating, engaged, cohabiting), married, or
remarried programs. Free Discussion Guides, Leader's Guide,
& Group Reports.
613
Ethics Part I: Confidentiality
Mary Ortwien, MS, Rita DeMaria, PhD
How do you keep a couple’s personal business confidential
in ME classes? What if you learn of abuse or dangerous behavior?
Learn guidelines for handling confidentiality dilemmas.
617
Adoptive Parents
Nate Cottle, PhD, CFLE, Jennifer Reid, MS, Patricia Polega
Each year, thousands of couples adopt high-risk children.
Lessons learned in a 5-year study on how to adapt marriage
education to meet the special needs of these at-risk,
deserving marriages.
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Saturday Workshops, July 11, 2-3:30pm
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703
Helping Boomers on the Edge
Terry Hargrave, PhD
Boomers face enormous challenges: caring for aging parents,
adult kids moving home, and being unable to afford to retire.
Explore solutions to help strengthen marriages in these trying times.
704
Learning Sobriety Together – FOOB
William Fals-Stewart, PhD, Gary Birchler, PhD
This program works with couples together – the drug/alcohol
abuser and spouse – to improve communication skills, build
cohesion, and both promote and maintain sobriety.
705
Journey to Love for “Singles Again” – TOOB
MP Wylie, PhD
Whether divorced, widowed or ending a relationship, success
rests on healing the past and wise choices. Learn critical steps for
defining/finding what you're really looking for in life and a partner.
706
Divorce Prevention: Controlled Separation
Elsie Radtke, MEd
Help stalemated couples restore their marriage using time-limited
guidelines, assessment, contracts, and “active waiting” skills that
put children first and avoid extended-family trauma.
707
Blending Sexual Meanings
Michael Metz, PhD
Heal couples fractured due to problems with male sexuality: porn,
strip clubs, etc. by integrating sexual meaning more deeply into
the marriage to strengthen cohesion and promote intimacy.
708
Torn Asunder: Mending Infidelity – TOOB
Dave Carder, MA
This model provides a structure to stabilize marriages in the
crucial first 90 days; skills to differentiate types of infidelity
and to start forgiveness and trust building; plus homework.
709 Teenage Stepkids
Elizabeth Einstein, MA
Stepfamily adjustment is hardest for teens – and their parents!
Learn to work with their developmental double binds of
autonomy and bonding – all liberally sprinkled with hormones.
711
Infertility: Hope and Healing
Montse Casado-Kehoe, PhD, Nadia Humphreys, MA
Infertility can devastate and destroy a marriage. Help couples
understand and manage the emotional, financial, spiritual,
psychological, and sexual stress, conflict, and decision making.
712
Special Families, Special Needs
Susan Blumberg, PhD
Help high-risk couples learn to balance the intense challenges
of raising a child with special needs with the needs of their
relationship using PREP communication and problem-solving skills.
713
Ethics Part II: Boundaries
Mary Ortwein, MS, Rita DeMaria, PhD
Explore commonly occurring marriage education scenarios;
the pros and cons of a range of solutions; and how to avoid
sliding down the slope into unintended ethical violations.
715
Facing Financial Hard Times Together
Linda Miles, PhD, Robert Miles, MD
Use the concepts from Behavioral Finance and Positive
Psychology to help couples approach financial decision-making
and problem solving as a team.
717
Happily UnMarried
John Curtis, PhD
Over 60% of couples cohabit before they marry, while
some will choose never to marry. Explore ways to re-think
cohabitation and help cohabitors strengthen their relationships
and families.
718
Heart Rhythm Practice
Jana Staton, PhD, Dan McMannis, MEd
Teach couples a new way to reduce stress, heal old wounds,
increase trust, optimism and connection by synchronizing heart,
body & brain in a positive, energetic state. Couples welcome.
801
Hot Latin Lovers: Latino Marriage
Joe Hernandez, PhD, Ana Morante, MFT
We know the stereotypes: Latinos are passionate, the men don't
communicate, women are more mothers than wives. Learn to use
our strengths to make our marriages nuestro "Vinculo mas Fuerte".
802
Win Your Wife’s Heart Forever
Scott Haltzman, MD
If we can build skyscrapers and land on Mars, we can also figure out
how to succeed at marriage. Eight Secrets From Happily Married Men
on how to win – and keep – the prize. For men only.
807
Marital Sex As it Ought to Be
Barry McCarthy, PhD
When it's good, it’s great. When it's bad or non-existent, it's a
bummer. Learn what it takes to have great marital sex – intimate
and erotic – and how to prevent and resolve sexual problems.
808
The Marriage Boot Camp Experience
Ron and Tina Konkin
We learn best by having fun! These games & drills will help you
quickly understand and resolve unfinished business and begin
enjoying your marriage in the here and now. As seen on TLC.
809
Remarriage Prep: The Second Time Around – TOOB
Carri and Gordon Taylor, MA, MFT
Learn how to identify your non-negotiables – often overlooked
in courtship – and the ten key steps to the development of
intimacy & trust, both crucial to the success of any remarriage.
811
The PAIRS Experience
Matthew Munyon, MS, Suzanne Mitchell
Whether you’re engaged, married or remarried, these easy,
enjoyable skills are guaranteed to kick your relationship up a
notch: Relationship Roadmap, Daily Temperature Reading, Good Will Umbrella.
812
Money Habitudes: The Last Taboo – TOOB
Syble Solomon, MEd
Play cards with the Money Habitudes card deck and gain instant,
life-changing insights into attitudes about money. Attend alone,
with a partner, or kids (12 or older).
813
The Marriage Turnaround
Mitch Temple, MS
Common marriage myths lead to distorted thinking and
marriage-destroying behaviors. Get a thinking tune-up and
take your marriage to higher ground. Faith-based.
814
Children of Divorce: Change Your Odds!
Beverly Rodgers, PhD, Tom Rodgers, PhD
According to research, children of divorce are less likely to
marry, and if and when they do, face higher divorce rates.
Learn important steps to change the odds.
815
The Mother-In-Law Conundrum
Leanne Braddock, MEd, MA, Ileene Huffard, EdD
We all know the mother-in-law relationship is critical to happy
marriages. Even in the White House! Add your tips to those
gathered from 1,000+ folks about how to get it right.
816
Love’s Cradle
Andrea Gibbs, MA
Your love for your newborn plus easy-to-learn couple skills can
help you build trust and commitment and the kind of relationship
your baby can count on, forever. Married or unmarried, expecting
or new parents welcome.
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201
His Needs, Her Needs and Love Busters - TOOB
Willard Harley, PhD
These two home-study courses make up the Marriage
Builders Recovery Program and teach couples how to
make Love Bank deposits, how to avoid making withdrawals,
and, if followed, are guaranteed to solve any marital problem.
202
Soul Healers Leaders Training – TOOB
Beverly and Tom Rodgers, PhDs
Practical, easy-to-learn tools for professionals or lay
mentors to help couples face even the most difficult,
on-the-brink problems: adultery, addiction, abuse or
other deep wounds.
204
The Power of Two – TOOB
Susan Heitler, PhD
Most couples have issues they disagree on again and again.
Some suggest just accepting the differences. This approach
aims higher and helps couples bring ALL their conflicts to win-win.
205
Relationship Enhancement (RE)
Rob Scuka, PhD
Teach couples how to access deep empathy to build connection,
intimacy, openness, trust, and love while creating mutually-satisfying
solutions to their most challenging issues.
208
Torn Asunder: Mending Infidelity – TOOB
Dave Carder, MA
This model provides a structure to stabilize marriages in
the crucial first 90 days; skills to differentiate types of
infidelity and to start forgiveness and trust building; plus homework.
210
Active Military Life & Resiliency – TOOB
Kelly Simpson, MA, Janie Illing, MA
Created in collaboration with military communities, this
skills-based program addresses the challenges of
reintegration for singles and couples and provides
resilience building tools.
211
PREPARE to Last – TOOB
David Olson, PhD, Peter Larson, PhD
Learn how to help premarital and newlywed couples laugh,
learn & grow! Easy-to-use, entertaining, DVD-based program
includes an online Couple Checkup.
212
Leaving a Legacy
Terry Real, MSW
Help parents understand the emotional and relationship
legacies handed to them as children and what they can
do to become conscious in shaping the legacy they are passing on.
215
Love’s Cradle
Mary Ortwein, MS
Learn how shared love for a newborn plus simplified
Relationship Enhancement skills can build trust and
commitment and nurture permanent bonds in low-income,
out-of-wedlock couples.
218
Sliding vs Deciding: Within My Reach
Scott Stanley, PhD, Marline Pearson, MA, Natalie Jenkins
Relationship education can be tailored to teach individuals,
not couples, how to improve their odds of having healthy
relationships and marriage. For TANF, military, tech college,
and correctional settings.
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Thursday Workshops, July 3, 2:15-3:45pm
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301
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
Esther Perel, MA
Explore the paradoxical relation of domesticity and sexual desire
– when security needs clash with our pursuit of passion. Help
couples sustain desire over the long haul while respecting
needs for safety and stability.
302
The New Rules of Marriage
Terry Real, MSW
Teach a new art form of relationship empowerment
– akin to ju-jitsu – in which couples build on each other’s
momentum and get what they need by empowering
their partner to give it to them.
303
The 7 Stages of Marriage – TOOB
Rita DeMaria, PhD
Give couples a roadmap to help them understand the
journey, anticipate the stages, and succeed at the mission
with commitment and passion intact. Use with any marriage
education program.
304
The Five Languages of Apology
Gary Chapman, PhD
Where do we learn whether or not, and how, to apologize?
Learn to help couples identify their own and their spouse’s
apology styles and how to speak their language.
305
Imago Dialogue
Harville Hendrix PhD, Tim Atkinson, MA
Structured dialogue is the very core of the powerful
Imago model. Help couples understand how to ‘stop
talking, and start connecting’ with each other and with
colleagues, friends, and family. Experiential.
308
Love Without Hurt
Steven Stosny, PhD
Learn how to use this approach in marriage education settings
to help overcome entrenched resentment, anger, verbal
and emotional abuse BEFORE you try to teach communication skills.
309
Smart Steps for Stepfamilies – TOOB
Francesca Adler-Baeder, PhD, CFLE
Learn key strategies to supplement any marriage
education program or create a stand-alone class for stepcouples
and children. Information for work with ethnic minorities.
311
Money Habitudes: The Last Taboo – TOOB
Syble Solomon, MEd
Use a unique card deck to give couples life-changing
insights into their hidden attitudes about money. Teach
groups, use with individual couples, or add to any marriage program.
312
1-2-3 Magic – TOOB
Tom Phelan, PhD
Teach parents easy-to-follow steps for disciplining
kids ages 2-12 without arguing, yelling or spanking
and when – and how – silence can speak louder than words.
________________
Friday Workshops, July 4, 10–11:30am
__________________
401
At the Movies
Frank Pittman, MD
Everything we need to know about marriage can be
found at the movies: explore meaning, expectations, love,
insanity, brain chemistry, secrets, lies, deal breakers
– even clues about how to get it right. Bring popcorn.
402
Falling in Love: As Easy as P. I. E.
Joe Beam
Learn how this visual model and a dynamic group process
help married couples understand how to fall in love all over
again whether in crisis or simply in search of deeper satisfaction.
404
Marriage Vitality
Ellyn Bader, PhD
Spouses crave intimacy; yet fear intensity. They crave
love; yet don't know how to be giving. Teach key attachment and
differentiation principles to help couples achieve loving teamwork.
406
The Essential Humility of Marriage
Terry Hargrave, PhD
Stability, security, and sincerity are the "right stuff" that
help couples move past "me and my happiness" to the respect,
humility, reliability, and sacrifice that produce solid marriages
and secure kids.
407
Internet Sex Addiction – TOOB
Mark Laaser, PhD, MDiv
Porn, the #1 seller on the internet, has become extremely
damaging to marriage. Learn to recognize the symptoms,
prevent and help overcome addiction to internet sex and
create or enhance ministry to sex addicts and their spouses.
409
The Stepfamily Journey: Not for Wimps
Elizabeth Einstein, MA
Learn to provide couples with a trail map to master stepfamily
developmental tasks. Understand emotional baggage, bonding,
loyalty, and discipline.
411
Children in the Middle – TOOB
Don Gordon, PhD
Use this award-winning online divorce education program to
maximize community divorce prevention efforts. Plus how
to recruit parents in failing marriages and form partnerships
with pastors, schools, physicians.
412
Genograms: Exploring Intergenerational Influences on Marriage – TOOB
Rita DeMaria, PhD
Easy-to-use tools explore family patterns (cut-offs,
legacies, addictions, etc.) that influence relationships
plus 5 exercises to strengthen love and commitment.
416
Between Two Worlds
Elizabeth Marquardt, MDiv
Even in the best divorces, kids live divided lives in
which they struggle to understand their parents'
behavior, negotiate tangled family systems, and
develop values and beliefs.
418
Accidental Prophets
Waverly Farrell, MFT, Vicki Doolittle, MS
Learn how gay and lesbian couples, freed of the
roles and rules of conventional partnerships, have
become the pioneers of a more egalitarian model
of relationship. Lessons for any setting.
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Friday Workshops, July 4, 2:30–4pm
_______________________
501
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It!
Pat Love, EdD, Steven Stosny, PhD
Learn an approach that combines brain research and
a set of brief behaviors guaranteed to strengthen marriage.
Best of all, men can do it without feeling they have to behave
like women.
504
Who Am I and Who Are You?
Scott Stanley, PhD
Learn how to use personality testing like The Primary Couples
Personality Tool to build understanding and acceptance in
marriage. Covers myths, research, and strategies for teaching acceptance.
507
Married Sex for Men
Michael Metz, PhD, Barry McCarthy, PhD
Ten things men need to know to deal with the common
problems – low desire, porn addiction, erectile dysfunction,
premature ejaculation, etc. – to build a healthy, pleasurable sex life.
_______________
Saturday Workshops, July 5, 10-11:30am
__________________
601
Boomers on the Edge
Terry Hargrave, PhD
Boomers have always been out front, leading the
revolution. They now face three enormous challenges.
Explore how boomers can use these issues to strengthen
rather than destroy their marriages.
602
Secrets of Happily Married Women
Scott Haltzman, MD
Help wives become energized and find contentment
in the face of the challenges of balancing feminist ideals,
traditional roles, work, self, kids, and well-intentioned
advice about having it all.
604
Marriage-Friendly Therapy
Bill Doherty, PhD
Marital therapy is a challenge. Learn about the essential
skills and values of a good marital therapist and about an
exciting new resource for locating these therapists in
your community.
607
Hot Monogamy – TOOB
Pat Love, EdD, Kathleen McFadden, CLE
The death of passion often heralds the end of a marriage.
Proven techniques help couples restore this vital energy.
Pragmatic strategies presented with humor and clinical savvy.
608
Beyond Affairs: Prevention and Recovery
Anne and Brian Bercht
Learn how to not only recover from infidelity, but to
make your marriage even stronger, from a couple that’s
been there. Also, how to establish a BAN recovery support
group in your community.
612
Why Singles Aren't Marrying
Beverly Rodgers, PhD, Tom Rodgers, PhD
Bust the myths that keep scared-silly singles stuck in
unhealthy relationship patterns by equipping them with
skills and information that will help them move confidently towards marriage.
615
The Challenge of Getting it Right
Barry McCarthy, PhD
Whether it's the first or a subsequent marriage, it takes
more than luck, love or finding your soulmate to get it right.
Help newlyweds master the crucial tasks of the first years of
marriage – or, remarriage.
616
Hot Latin Lovers: Latino Marriage
Joe Hernandez, PhD, Ana Morante, MFT, George Doub, MDiv
Latinos are passionate. The men don’t communicate.
Some want a “casa chica”. We’ll tackle the stereotypes
and how to effectively present marriage education in the
Latino community.
__________________ Saturday Workshops, July 5, 12:45-2:15pm
__________________
702
African American Marriage Enrichment – TOOB
Lorraine Blackman, PhD
Learn tips for teaching this program that addresses
the specific issues facing African American couples.
Perfect for church, school, community, and private
practice settings.
703
The Couple Check Up
David Olson, PhD, Ron Deal, MMFT, Peter Larson, PhD
Using research from 100,000+ couples, understand the
unique differences between biological and stepfamilies
and learn to use the Check-Up to create dynamic Couple
Positioning Systems for premarital, married, and remarried couples.
704
Learning Sobriety Together – FOOB
William Fals-Stewart, PhD, Gary Birchler, PhD
This program works with couples together – the drug/alcohol
abuser and spouse – to improve communication skills, build
cohesion, and both promote and maintain sobriety.
705
Taming the Tempest: Learning Emotional Regulation
Rob Scuka, PhD
Teach couples to contract in advance about how they
will manage spontaneously erupting, out-of-control conflict,
and emotional flooding using RE skills of empathy, disengagement
and self-calming.
709
Teenage Stepkids
Elizabeth Einstein, MA
Stepfamily adjustment is hardest for teens – and, their parents!
Learn to work with their developmental double binds around
autonomy and bonding – all liberally sprinkled with hormones.
710
When Parents Hurt
Joshua Coleman, PhD
It’s hard to be happy, or happily married, when you're feeling
unloved/unappreciated by your adult children. Help parents
learn how to improve communication, manage conflict, and
rebuild family intimacy.
Smart Marriage & Family Expo® - Seminars Saturday July 5, 2008, 4 – 5:30pm ______________________ 801
Close Calls: Avoiding Adultery
Dave Carder, MA
Advice from thousands of adulterers help us identify
our own high risk situations and “Dangerous Partner Profiles”
and provides ideas for using Close Call experiences to
actually strengthen marital intimacy.
802
Why Talking Is Not Enough: 8 Loving Actions
Susan Page, MDiv
Transform your relationship by replacing the same
old, round and round frustrating conversations with
easy-to-learn loving actions. For women only. 812
Surviving Your Adolescents: 13 - 18 Year Olds – TOOB
Tom Phelan, PhD
There are times you must keep quiet as they push
toward independence and times you must take charge.
This step-by-step approach will help end the hassles.
Single parents & stepparents also welcome.
814
Safety First: Rapid Relationship Repair
Peter Pearson, PhD, Ellyn Bader, PhD
Even the best communication guidelines can be
useless when discussing hot topics and feeling upset.
Learn two techniques that manage the emotional brain
and melt grudges.
815
Getting to Know YOU
Lillian Breckenridge, PhD
Determine your Myers-Briggs personality type and
learn strategies to better navigate relationships and
differences. Couples and singles welcome!
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These sessions were recorded live at the 2007 Smart Marriages Conference
and are available on
DVD, CD or MP3 at 800-241-7785 or at
http://www.iplaybacksmartmarriages.com
CDs $15 each or order 12 or more and they're $12.50 each.
MP3 Downloads are $9.95 each.
DVDs are available of the Keynote sessions - $29.95<>
206
Enhancing Relationships With Body Wisdom
Kathlyn Hendricks, PhD
Body-based exercises enable couples to unlock the 5
secrets to Lasting Love, resolve power-struggles, create
variety, and rekindle romance.
304
De-Mystifying the Relational Space
Hedy Schleifer, MA
Seven principles and practices will change the way you
think about relationships and help you guide couples to
embrace differences, harness passion, and deepen connections.
705
Tell Me No Lies
Ellyn Bader, PhD, Peter Pearson, PhD
The four predictable stages of marriage each has its own
set of lies. Teach couples how to avoid inviting the lies and,
instead, build emotional muscle for long-term, truth-telling
intimacy.
204
Your Time-Starved Marriage – TOOB
Les Parrott, PhD
This program helps couples manage one of their
biggest complaints: lack of time together with
practical guidelines to identify, maximize and
combine their two unique “time styles”.
205
Life Coaching With Couples
Lisa Kramer, MSW
Life Coaching helps couples move forward into
extraordinary “conscious” relationships. Learn
how to add the Coach designation to your resume
and a 4-phase model to incorporate in your work
with couples.
208
Infidelity and Forgiveness
Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD
It takes two to forgive. Teach partners the intimate dance
of taking responsibility, experiencing heartfelt
apology, letting go of pain, and learning the lessons
that will help them repair and grow.
212
Undoing the Dance of Depression
Susan Heitler, PhD
Depression is in many ways a two-people disorder. Learn
how couples can prevent and/or alleviate depressive
episodes with communication and conflict resolution skills.
301**
IMAGO: Connects and Couplehood as a Spiritual Path - TOOB
Harville Hendrix, PhD, Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD
Two programs teach key IMAGO skills including the
Imago Dialogue Process to help couples begin their
life-long journey of growth, healing, and spiritual
connection.
308
Affairproofing Marriage
Frank Pittman, MD, Tina Pittman Wagers, MSW, PsyD
Teach behaviors like honesty, intimacy, equality, and
manners to steer people away from the enemies of monogamy:
narcissism, romanticism, and hanging out with people who
have the habits and attitudes of chimpanzees.
318
eharmony Marriage
Les Parrott, PhD, Galen Buckwalter, PhD
Use this private, convenient, engaging, on-line marriage-strengthening
program as an adjunct to your community work or practice. Assessment,
exercises, knowledge, skills.
503***
Mars/Venus Communication Skills
John Gray, PhD
Understand the unique Mars/Venus principles and
concepts brought to life with humor, insight and helpful
advice to use in your counseling or educational settings.
505
Family Wellness: Skills for Fragile Families
George Doub, MDiv, Ana Morante, MFT
Teach skills to at-risk families - never-married, teen,
single parent, stepfamily, military, families with abuse
- to handle extraordinary challenges and move toward
ever greater stability.
508***
Affairs: Step-by-Step to Recovery
Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW
There isn’t one right approach, but it helps to have a map
of the territory. How much disclosure? When? Moratoriums?
Why? Learn a flexible, adaptable structure that helps.
602***
Rekindling Desire
Barry McCarthy, PhD
One in five marriages is non-sexual, i.e., have sex
less than 10 times a year. Specific exercises bridge
the cycles of avoidance and self-consciousness and
reestablish desire. Case illustrations.
605
Marriage @ Work
Tim Gardner, MA, DMin
Innovative, practical, proven strategies for adapting marriage
education principles to the business environment. Learn
what one committed educator can do – and how to do it.
Multiple examples.
606***
Caring for Marriage while Caring for Aging Parents
Terry Hargrave, PhD
Through movie clips and life stories, learn to outwit the
pitfalls that can drive a wedge between couples and how,
instead, to turn caretaking challenges into opportunities
for love & growth.
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The sessions listed below were recorded live at the
10th Annual 2006 Smart Marriages Conference and are available on
DVD, CD or MP3 at 800-241-7785 or at
http://www.iplaybacksmartmarriages.com
CDs $15 each or order 12 or more and they're $12.50 each.
MP3 Downloads are $9.95 each.
DVDs are available of the Keynote sessions - $29.95
756-316
Intrusive Partners-Elusive Mates
Stephen Betchen, DSW
Pursuer-distancer marriages are most likely of all to end in divorce.
Learn fifteen major traits and tendencies of pursuers and distancers
and techniques to improve the dynamic and achieve true intimacy.
756-503
Going Deeper, Not Off the Deep End
Mary Ortwein, MS
How do you help couples deepen their dialogue
past surface issues without turning education
programs into therapy? Learn to use RE empathy
exercises to move to deep concerns and connections.
756- 506
Fighting for Sexual Intimacy: The PREP Approach
Gary Barnes, PhD, Scott Stanley, PhD
Help couples avoid automatic responses of fleeing or
fighting over sex. Use skills to understand underlying
issues and expectations and make sex a powerfully
protective factor in their marriage.
756-702
Power Love – TOOB
Steven Stosny, PhD
Women maintain and nurture relationships, but men decide
if, and when, they’ll improve. In this male-friendly program,
learn to engage men and teach scientifically-validated behaviors
to improve marriage.
756-703
Divorce Prevention: Controlled Separation
Lee Raffel, MSW, Elsie Radtke, MEd, Kim Hagerty, MA
Help stalemated couples restore their marriage using time-limited
guidelines, assessment, contracts and “active waiting” skills
that put children first and avoid extended-family trauma.
756- 713
Beyond the Chuppah
Joel Crohn, PhD, Susan Blumberg, PhD
Understand how ancient wisdom and modern research
and skills, including the new Jewish PREP, can be used
to support strong Jewish and interfaith marriages.
756-714
Love and Sex Addiction
Jon Marsh, Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW
12-steps is not for everyone. Learn how to use the skills
and value-based PRIDE recovery model for transitioning
couples from traumatic discovery of a love/sex addiction
to healthy partnership.
756-718
You've Got the Courses, Now What?
Rita DeMaria, PhD
In spite of all the misery, it can be hard to get people to
take marriage classes. Learn strategies that
work in offering a range of courses in private practice,
clinic or community settings.
756-801 - DVD
The Number One Key to Incredible Sex
Mark Gungor
Learn a humorous and incredibly effective approach to
understanding the misinformation that kills off sex and
passion, and how to turn things around.
756- 815
The Lazy Husband
Joshua Coleman, PhD
Despite a trend towards dads doing more parenting and
housework, most of the load still falls on moms. Learn
strategies for resolving the endless struggles and even things out.
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