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"In this cynical, high-divorce society, this important book is a MUST read." - John Gottman
"The bible for every 'smart' marriage educator." - Diane Sollee

Recipient of the 2007 Smart Marriages Impact Award.
"Marriage and Caste in America is the best single book on the damage being done to our nation by the explosion of divorce and nonmarital births. Beginning with the widely ignored fact that it is minorities and the poor who are disproportionately affected by family breakdown, this provocative book presents a disturbing tale of cultural meltdown. Reading it is like reading a cultural obituary." - Ron Haskins

Once upon a time, Martians and Venusians functioned in separate worlds. But in today's hectic and career-oriented environment, relationships have become a lot more complicated, and men and women are experiencing unprecedented levels of stress. To add to the tension, most men and women are unaware that they are hardwired to react differently to the stress. We're not on the same page, anger and resentment set in, and we collide. Gray, backed up by groundbreaking research, arms us with the information we need to live harmoniously ever after.

<>Wake up, America: We’re raising a nation of wimps. They can’t make their own decisions, cope with anxiety, lack leadership skills, and as college graduates can’t even negotiate their own salaries without bringing mom or dad in for a consult. Hothouse parents are raising teacup children—brittle and breakable, instead of strong and resilient. This crisis threatens to destroy the fabric of our society, to undermine both our democracy and economy. Without future leaders or daring innovators, where will we go? What can be done?

Heralded by the New York Times as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, has become widely popular among therapists. In HOLD ME TIGHT, Johnson translates her model for the general public –  introduces the concept of "effective dependency", key moments  - from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment, and seven healing conversations. Through case studies and practical exercises, couples learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

Practical and empowering. A 7-step program anyone can follow to revitalize even the most damaged marriage. Solution-oriented strategies for saving your marriage, coping with infidelity, internet obsessions, depression, sexual problems, midlife crises, etc. This program is effective even if your spouse has one foot out the door.

Weiner Davis explains that you are not alone, and it is not your fault: there is a whole host of reasons why your husband might be experiencing low desire. She's also convinced that understanding the cause of a problem won't make your sex life any juicier; doing something about it will. She gives you the tools you need to present the information in the book so that your husband will not become defensive. You'll learn methods for overcoming sexual dysfunctions such as performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and effective ways for dealing with pornography or infidelity. The straightforward, psychobabble-free advice in this book will help you create the intimacy and connection for which you've been longing.

Men are right. "Relationship talk” does not help. This book reveals the stunning truth about marital happiness: Love is not about better communication. It's about connection. Men want closer marriages just as much as women do,but not if they has to act like a woman. The secret of the silent male is this: his wife supplies the meaning in his life. And so on....plus tons of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages, this essential guide will help couples find love beyond words.

This bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex invites us to explore the
paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes
to bring lust home. Through case studies and lively discussion, she
demonstrates how exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in
long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is
straightforward, this book will transform the way you live and love.....and what you teach couples. 

This pro-male, pro-sex, pro-marriage book, written by, for and about men, is organized around three main topics - awareness and enhancement of sexuality, dealing with sexual problems, and lifelong healthy sexuality. Another way to put it is that it helps men deal with the challenge of integrating intimacy without losing their sense of eroticism and accepting the Good Enough Sex model rather than clinging to the male dominant, perfect intercourse performance approach. It tackles the barriers and problems that limit sexual practice, discusses how to enhance sexual satisfaction and offers understanding of and solutions for problems such as premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, inhibited sexual desire, ejaculatory inhibition and compulsive sexual behavior. Exercises and activities provide skills training, and stimulate healthy sexual practice.

Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages. Chapman identifies five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch and explains how you can discover your spouse's - and your own - love language and use that info to create lasting love. 

How many ways are there to say 'I'm sorry?' It depends. Just as we have a different love languages, we also hear and express the words and gestures of apology in different languages. Chapman provides an easy to follow and quickly applicable communication tool to help couples and families heal. 

Since the 1960s, the number of couples living together before marriage has increased significantly. The theory that couples could "practice" seemed a perfect solution to an increasingly higher divorce rate. "After all," many argued, "if we live together first, we will really know if we're compatible." However, the sad reality is that the divorce rate is actually higher for couples who cohabit. Mike & Harriet McManus explain that you can not practice permanence, and why to be successful a marriage must be approached as permanent. Learn the many reasons why cohabitation is not the answer and the important principles that really do give couples the necessary tools for successful marriage.

An effective relationship strategy based on subtle, powerful changes in your own actions. This method shows you the magic of “Keep your mouth out of it!” Page’s pioneering eight-step program invites you to give up problem solving and move directly to a warmer, more loving and fun relationship, based on universal spiritual principles.

Based on 30 years of longitudinal research on the "masters and disasters" of marriage, Gottman provides powerful evidence - and concrete guidelines - for making marriage work. Turns out, "emotionally intelligent" marriages have friendship at their center.

An upbeat, easy-to-follow manual based on research into the dynamics of married couples. Gottman describes his studies as being akin to a CAT scan of a living relationship and asserts that he's been able to predict the future of marriages with an accuracy rate of over 90 percent. He concludes that a lasting relationship results from a couple's ability to resolve conflicts and he offers a four-step program for breaking through negativity and allowing one's natural communication and problem-solving abilities to flourish.

Identify and break free of the attitudes and assumptions that can chip away at even the happiest marriage - treating marriage like a consumer purchase, confusing desires with needs, becoming overtime parents and part-time spouses, and giving in to unintentional sabotage from family, friends, or helping professionals. Learn how to stay alert to marital drift, create energizing marriage rituals, and how to restore a relationship worth saving, even when it seems too late.

Weddings bring out the best and worst in us because they combine romance, money, loyalties, jealousies, new in-law relations, and endless practical decisions – all played out in front of your community of family and friends! No one gets through this without times of frustration, confusion, and sometimes anger. This book is an essential guide to handing the stress, avoiding the common pitfalls, having a great wedding, and launching a successful marriage.

With optimism, enthusiasm, brilliance and wit, Dr. Pittman reassures us that the secret of happiness lies in being an adult, commiting ourselves to personal honor and integrity, and reconsidering our adult roles in families and society.

It's happened to everyone: you meet someone, fall madly in love and all good judgment and perspective go out the window until slowly you realize this person isn't who you thought he/she was. Follow this proven program and 5 key areas for picking a partner and break the destructive relationship & dating patterns that lead to failure.

In The Secrets of Happily Married Men we learn that the key is for men to treat marriage with the same sense of purpose, resolve, and single-minded devotion that they have for their job. While that works for men – an entirely different set of criteria resonate with women. In The Secrets of Happily Married Women we learn that the happy wives are the ones that know how to get more out of their partners by doing less, by not trying so hard to make men perfect, not dragging them to couples therapy, not expecting them to think or behave like a woman. Learn the secrets – how to tap into men's powerful hard-wired desire to please women and "be a better man."

Good people in good marriages are having affairs at work and on the Internet. Learn how to clarify commitment, validate rational jealousy, and use "wall and windows" safeguards to prevent platonic friendships from crossing the line into an extramarital relationship. Click to see what the experts are saying about Not Just Friends.

Hendrix combines what he's learned in a number of disciplines, including cognitive and Gestalt therapies to help couples transform their relationship into a Conscious Marriage -- a lasting source of love and companionship. With exercises that quickly get everyone's cards on the table, he covers what it takes to get past the most common forms of relationship dysfunction and teaches the essential practice of "becoming passionate friends".

A companion workbook to the enormously successful New York Times bestselling relationship book, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. Contains a unique twelve-week course (The New Couples' Study Guide) designed to help work through the exercises in Part III of Getting the Love You Want.

This classic best-seller identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses with guidance for "becoming irresistible to your spouse" and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs.

With the book's practical magic - three ways to implement 'the power of presencing' and included CD, you and your beloved will learn how to feel connected on the spiritual level, in times of stress as well as in times of joy and abundance. You'll learn to love so generously and wisely that your relationship becomes a sacred treasure to you and an inspiration to others. John Bradshaw has said, “I consider Gay and Kathlyn to be my teachers.”

A five-step plan—based on groundbreaking research and a uniquely spiritual approach— helps couples understand commitment and includes learning to move through the pain of unfulfilled dreams and hopes, overcoming attraction to others, transforming thinking from "me versus you" to "we" and "us," and capturing the beauty of lifelong devotion, loyalty, teamwork, and building a lasting vision for the future.

"I still love him but I'm not IN LOVE anymore?" In this groundbreaking guide to the physiology and psychology of lasting love, Love reveals that love has normal, predictable stages that include highs and lows, and that many couples mistake the lows for the end of love. This practical guide will teach you how not to break up before the breakthrough realization: You can create the true love you long for with the partner you already have.

Reclaim that old spark, connection, and creativity in your marriage through ten memory-making dates based on marriage-enriching themes. This proven approach to relationship growth is low-key, purposeful, effective, easy, and fun.
“You will love growing together while going out together.”-John Gray

It’s just the two of you again and it’s time to renew your relationship. You can reconnect and reclaim that same spark, excitement, and creativity you experienced before you had kids through ten innovative, fun dates. “This book will fill your empty nest with fun, friendship, and romance. It is refreshing to read a book about marriage written by people who don’t just believe in marriage but actually understand how it works.” - John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

A unique approach featuring fun-filled dates to help seriously dating and engaged couples strengthen their relationship. Couples will soon discover whether or not to go to the next level of commitment, and will spend quality time together now while preparing for a great marriage in the future.

Feeling overscheduled and underconnected? Learn how to make every moment together count with practical, accessible, guidelines to help you identify and maximize and combine your two unique time styles. This is not a book about being more productive—it’s a book about being more connected as a couple.

"Some years ago, a young couple came to the University of Washington to visit the laboratory of a psychologist named John Gottman..." How to understand our ability to make snap judgments, and how to educate and hone this ability to make it work for us.

Think one-or two-paragraph soundbites and bullet-pointed checklists from Gray's mega-selling relationship bible focused on the perennial miscommunication problems that can sink a marriage - a portable, easy-to-use set of tips to keep your marriage ship shape.

Based on a pioneering new national study, this book challenges the idea of the "good divorce," arguing that while an amicable divorce is certainly better than a bitter one, even amicable divorces sow lasting inner conflict in the lives of children. It is the first nationally representative study to examine the moral and spiritual impact of divorce on children, and the only major study authored by a young scholar who was herself a child of divorce.

Challenging entrenched notions about what goeswrong in bad marriages, Hargrave suggests that in strong marriages there is an "us" that takesprecedence over the individual partners, and he shows couples how to support this third identity - the marriage.

"Aimed at real people coping with the real problems of living together -- couples with pretty good marriages and very good intentions but a faulty instruction book on life and relationships. This workbook is wise, optimistic, and a lot of fun." - Frank Pittman

An emotional and triumphant journey written through the perspectives of the people involved -- the betrayed wife, the misunderstood husband, the wounded children, the "other woman" or the friends or family members who desperately want to offer comfort. There is much to be learned from someone who writes as though she is speaking to you in person and who offers all kinds of ideas for healing from infidelity - or for avoiding it in the first place.

An easy-to-use, low-cost version of PREP - the world’s most successful marriage enhancement program. This book requires a commitment to 12 hours of relationship work and offers specific data, guidelines, proven methods, examples, anecdotes, self-tests, and exercises to do together and individually. For anyone who wants to enhance and preserve their relationship, the PREP method works.

What every couple needs to know to understand what really makes a marriage work. Clear, helpful guidelines for creating a healthy marriage and strategies, skills, and attitudes that to prevent disappointment, resentment and alienation from entering the relationship.

It’s not easy being a parent—and handling the disrespectful outburts of children in a reasonable, unemotional manner when they’re acting like "little monsters." Parents need help, but not help that requires that they be a genius, saint or professional psychotherapist. Learn how your silence can speak louder than your words.

Living with a teenager is no picnic. There are times when you must bite your tongue as your kids push towards independence. Or—if you sense there is trouble—there are times when you must take charge. Discover how to tell normal teenage behavior from problem behavior, and learn the relationship between parent/teen communication and adolescent safety

The classic that helped millions of parents raise emotionally intelligent children is now revised and updated. Ginott’s warm and practical narrative can help any person who works with or cares about children.

Revolutionary program for repairing troubled relationships - with spouses, lovers, children, family members, friends, boss or colleagues. Provides tools including the empowering concept of the "emotional bid," the fundamental unit of emotional connection. All good relationships are built through a process of making and receiving successful bids that range from such subtle gestures as a quick question, a look, or a comment to the most probing and intimate ways we communicate.

When stressed or angry brains move into the fight-or-flight response mode, important abilities such as creativity, planning, organizational skills and empathy, are disabled. "Reptiles" teaches couples to slow down, lower their heart rates and increase higher level neo-cortex reasoning to allow them to heal and develop their intimacy.

When one spouse is dissatisfied and the other unwilling to consider their partner's feelings, sex isn't the only casualty - intimacy on every level simply ceases - making infidelity or divorce a real threat. This straight-shooting book outlines a plan to help both partners behave in ways that makes true intimacy a real possibility. A must read for couples struggling with a desire gap or who believe the myth that desire is something that should "just happen".

Coleman isn't afraid to tell the truth: not all marriages can be joyful at all times, but that isn't a cause for divorce, especially with children involved. Even if your marriage is never going to be the one you dreamed of, you can still live happily ever after. With practical advice and genuine empathy, Coleman encourages spouses to stick it out: their marriage may not change drastically for the better, he says – but then again, it just might.

In this long-awaited follow-up to Conscious Loving, the authors take on two of the most pressing problems that sap vitality and energy from committed relationships: how to forge a closer relationship that still allows each partner full creative autonomy and how to generate passion while preserving the harmony essential to keeping long-term partnerships alive and flourishing.

Guidance couples so desperately need to revitalize low-sex and no-sex marriages in a ten-step approach that utilizes practical guidelines and clear exercises that ease couples into working together as an intimate team to confront the guilt, anger, anxiety, shame ,and inhibitions which trap them, increase intimacy, pleasuring, and eroticism and develop their own broad based, flexible couple sexual style. Includes an individualized relapse prevention program to help couplesgeneralize gains and prevent relapse.

Based on research from real couples, this book gives you the basic steps for creating and maintaining passion in your marriage. Easy to read, down-to- earth and full of user-friendly information that will help you understand and transform common sexual issues.Audiotape versions with workbook: 512-891-0610

Help couples prepare for a life-long marriage, strengthen an existing one or save a troubled one with mentoring couples that have proven effective at every stage, and guidelines for how to jump-start programs in churches united in "Community Marriage Policies" that have reduced divorce rates of metro areas by as much as 35%. To order: Marriage Savers, 9311 Harrington Dr., Potomac, MD 20854.

Shay maintains that Odysseus experienced nearly all of the symptoms he has observed in returned veterans of modern wars: fearfulness, inability to trust or be close to anyone, emotional outbursts, violence, criminal activity, sexual adventurism, and so forth. Homer understood and appreciated what war really meant to the participants. The book offers healing techniques and suggestions for prevention.

He carried his wife to freedom on his scarred and beaten back - that's really all you need to know about John Little." But journalist DeRamus reveals more about Little and a dozen or so others in this uplifting and sometimes heartbreaking look at love during the U.S.'s slavery years in this collection of fascinating stories of men and women who took extraordinary measures, risking life and limb to be together.

A groundbreaking exploration of our most complex and mysterious emotion. Elation, mood swings, sleeplessness, and obsession -- these are the tell-tale signs of someone in the throes of romantic passion. In this revealing new book, renowned anthropologist Fisher explains why this experience -- which cuts across time, geography, and gender -- is a force as powerful as the need for food or sleep.

Interactive workbook to help engaged, pre-engaged and newlywed couples discover the practical insights, scriptural principles, and must-have relationship skills they need to experience all marriage has to offer. Ideal pre-marital program for pastors, counselors, small group leaders, and mentor couples that can be used with a relationship inventory or solo.

Since its first publication in 1994, FFYM has been the best-selling book in the field. Continuing research and new clinical work have led to this complete and comprehensive revision. All the major topics of the PREP marriage education program are presented through humorous examples and practical exercises. Learn strategies for better communication, conflict management, and how to deepen commitment, friendship, and fun in marriage.

Discover how to fall in love by meeting each other's important emotional needs; stay in love by avoiding habits that chip away at your love; and, finally, master the art of negotiating to create a compatible lifestyle. With these essential steps in place, you and your spouse will enjoy a romantic,passionate, life-long love for each other and a happy, successful marriage.

A best-selling clearly-written, optimistic handbook for prospective and current stepfamilies providing solid information, practical suggestions and comforting support. Relationships old and new are explored with telling examples and sensible advice.

Women have changed in the last twenty-five years–they've become powerful, independent, self-confident, and happy. Yet many men remain irresponsible and emotionally detached. They don’t know how to respond to frustrated partners who just want their mates to show up and grow up. Real identifies five non-starters to avoid and shares practical strategies for bringing honesty, passion, and joy back to even the most difficult relationship.

Is forgiveness always healthy -- even when the offender is unremorseful or dead? Spring proposes an authentic, life-affirming alternative to help overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with life -- without forgiving. She also develops a radically new concept of genuine forgiveness and details concrete steps for earning forgiveness.

This inspiring book shows how our unrealistic expectations have made marriage more fragilethan ever before and offers a practical new vision of marriage as a wonderful opportunity tolearn and practice virtues in the shared pursuit of a couple's deepest ideals.The book is filled with examples of how tocultivate friendship, loyalty, generosity, and other virtues.

This unique book supports parents who are struggling with the heartache of having a teenager or an adult child who is troubled, angry, or distant. Such rifts can cause unspeakable sorrow and damage marriages. Through case examples and healing exercises, Coleman helps parents develop strategies for rebuilding the relationship or move toward acceptance of what can't be changed.

John Curtis, a leading organizational development consultant and former marriage counselor applies proven business strategies to "divorce-proof" intimate relationships and even turnaround rocky relationships. Provides a step-by-step approach on how to apply business concepts to marriage, such as writing a marital vision statement or a detailed job description for the husband and wife, or how to set up a performance appraisals process and compensation system for a marriage.

10 strategies for readers to reach better self-understanding and ultimately a fulfilling relationship. Filled with revealing anecdotes, case studies, and quizzes, the book’s down-to-earth guidance will appeal to everyone who devoured books like Mars and Venus on a Date and Getting the Love You Want, and anyone who wants a fulfilling intimate relationship.  "Behold a wonder–a romantic self-help book that is intelligent, upbeat, practical, useful, winning, and even wise." –Kirkus Reviews

The Cinderella fairy tale continues, describing how the royal couple experiences the same conflicts all couples do. Written with wit and whimsy, the book tells how Fairy Godmother and Caring Godfather teach the couple specific steps to help them live happily ever after. The Meyersons' unique insight provides you with the skills needed for a joyful and harmonious relationship with your life partner. The Wedding Edition includes a special introduction and makes an ideal engagement gift.
– A delightful book, sheer genius. Give this to every newlywed you know. Diane Sollee, Director, Smart Marriages.

This groundbreaking approach to relationships gives you the tools and encouragement to bring positive changes to your relationship, even if your partner is unwilling to do the work. Based on the premise that what you do in a relationship makes changes faster than anything you discuss, Page introduces the concept of "Loving Leadership" and offers fourteen empowering and doable strategies for recapturing the positive feelings.

Walter studies marriage in Hawthorne's The House of the Seven Gables, James' The Beast in the Jungle, Morrison's Beloved, Percy's The Thanatos Syndrome, and Frazier's Cold Mountain. By proposing the image of marriage as an aesthetic principle in literature, Walter is making us aware that the forms of our lives are deeply embedded in and yet shaped by the narratives that are among our guiltiest and most profound pleasures."—Robert Dupree, from the foreword

"This is the perfect resource for all who are considering stepfamily living or have already committed. It is not just a book about stepfamilies, but instead a detailed manual on how to create a strong stepfamily unit. The ideas and strategies are clear and compelling. Be prepared to enjoy coming home!" - Jon Carlson