Resources for rebuilding - and preventing - infidelity.

****A collection of Infidelity recordings from the Smart Marriages Conference -
pracitcal advice from the nation's top experts available on CD, MP3 and DVDs.*****

Infidelity - 10 "Pointers" from Shirley Glass, PhD from her Smart Marriages
keynote and workshops: "Not Just Friends: The New Crisis of Infidelity".

Shirley Glass, Psychology Today article

Healing from Infidelity - Michele Weiner-Davis, Parade Magazine

Forgivness is giving up all hope for a better past and instead inviting hope for a better future.
Refusing to forgive is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die.
- Unknown

New love is the brightest, and long love is the greatest, but revived love is the tenderest thing known on earth.
- Thomas Hardy

Click for the book list which includes highly recommended, "must read" books for recovery (and prevention)
like: NOT Just Friends by Shirley Glass,The Monogamy Myth by Peggy Vaughn, After the Affair and
How Can I Forgive You? by Janis Spring, Torn Asunder and Close Calls by Dave Carder, Private Lies and Grow Up! by
Frank Pittman, Divorce Remedy and The Sex-Starved Marriage by Michele Weiner-Davis, and Couple Sexual
Awareness and Rebuilding Desire by Barry McCarthy. And, try the novels A Man In Full, Tom Wolfe and
Angle of Repose,Wallace Stegner.

Order the classic SHIRLEY GLASS Infidelity DVD Package only $89 -
everything you'd ever want to know about preventing or recovering from infidelity. It includes
her Smart Marriages "Not Just Friends: The New Crisis of Infidelity" keynote plus her
90-minute workshop of the same title. Practical, compassionate and helpful. Package 754-GL.
Order from Playback Now On-line or at 800-241-7785 .
These sessions, along with her book, will equip you as an infidelity expert - help couples, or, help yourself.
To order the book, Not Just Friends: Protect Your Relationship from Infidelity and Heal the Trauma of Betrayal,
for only $17.50 on amazon, click:
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RETROUVAILLE - (Retro-VI) "means rediscovery and rhymes with apple pie."
A program for couples with serious problems who are disillusioned, separated and/or
on the brink of divorce. You'll be helped by volunteer couples who have also
"been to the brink" - who have experienced serious problems including affairs ,
alcoholism, gambling, violence, etc or who have simply fallen out of love - but who
have worked their way back. They'll teach you how to fall back in love again and
heal you own marriage & make it stronger than ever before. This successful program
(85% when both partners work at it) teaches simple communication techniques plus
exercises to work on forgiveness, healing, and restoration of trust. Begins with a weekend
followed by 12 meetings over three months. These are not spiritual retreats, sensitivity groups,
seminars or social gatherings - there are no counselors involved and you don't have
to say anything in front of anyone else. Couples discuss the topics and practice the
skills in private. No fee, blank-envelope-donation system. Open to couples
of all faiths and to the non-religious. To find a program in your area:
800-470-2230
Web: http://www.retrouvaille.org/weekends/weekends%20schedule_1.html

BAN - Beyond Affairs Network
Anne and Brian Bercht, Leaders beginning June 2006, Successors
to Peggy and James Vaughan (dearpeggy.com). BAN is an International
Support Group with local chapters for people recovering from the devastating
experience of a spouse’s affair. Anne is author of My Husband’s Affair
Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me. Anne and Brian offer
seminars and workshops for healing from affairs and marriage enrichment as
well as relationship coachingby phone or in person. Their website offers
resources for recovery including free articles and newsletters.
604-859-9393
Email: anne@passionatelife.ca
Website: http://www.beyondaffairs.com

PAIRS
Lori Gordon, PhD
PAIRS shows how to rebuild marriages on the brink of divorce through weekend
and four-day intensives, as well as the hallmark semester course. PAIRS has
taught thousands to remove barriers to love and passion, rebuild trust and communication,
and create lasting relationships that are filled with love, pleasure and happiness.
Programs across the country and around the world.
888- 724-7748
www.pairs.com

Divorce Busting Center
Michele Weiner-Davis author of Divorce Busting and Divorce Remedy
offers skill-building workshops, audiotape programs, books, and
telephone consultations to help couples improve their relationships quickly.
Support forum on the site.
800-664-2435 or 815-337-8000
Web: www.divorcebusting.com

DearPeggy.com - Extramarital Affairs Resource Center
Peggy Vaughan's website is a clearinghouse for information
about Extramarital Affairs. It includes over 160 free articles,
links to other websites, a list of effective helpers, book reviews,
and 450 of Peggy's responses to questions, and James and Peggy's
8 books in PDF format for immediate download. Peggy is best
known for The Monogamy Myth, her groundbreaking book on
affairs. Peggy also offers one-time-only telephone consulting.
Email: peggy@dearpeggy.com
Web: http://www.dearpeggy.com

Torn Asunder: Recovering from Extramarital Affairs, book and workbook
Dave Carder, MFT. This 90 day process will help you
stabilize your relationship after infidelity enabling you to
make decisions appropriate for both yourselves and your children. Learn
together how to review of your history, learn the process
of forgiveness, the rebuilding of respect and trust, and the development
of effective conflict resolution skills.
714-257-4332
Email: Dave.Carder@evfreefullerton.com
Web:http://www.TornAsunder.org

Marsvenus.com has a FREE forum message board with a section on infidelity.
Receive/offer support to/from other people from all over the world who have
similiar experiences.
Web: http://www.marsvenus.com/forums/index.php

The Third Option
This ongoing marriage enrichment/marriage crisis group program uses a drop-in
format, skill building and sharing by couples who have overcome difficulties
including infidelity. Self-contained manual & videos make the program easy to implement
in your church or community - no training requred. For couples or
individuals at any stage from engaged to long-married. Start a group in your
congregation or community.
Pat Ennis, MSW
315-472-6728
Web: www.thethirdoption.com

Reconciling God’s Way
You've tried everything to avoid divorce and save your marriage - why
not give God a chance? This workbook and ministry promises hope, mentor
support, and tools to save marriages - even if only one spouse wants reconciliation!
The twelve-week leader's guide equips pastors and lay leaders.
Joe and Michelle Williams
209-578-4357
Web: www.bvg.org/reconcilers

COMPASSION WORKSHOPS & Power Love: Anger & Violence Regulation
Steven Stosny, PhD
Educational programs for Self-Regulation - an add-on to any marriage education
program for detection, treatment and prevention of emotional or physical abuse.
301-921-2010
Web: www.compassionpower.com

Family Dynamics Institute
Founded by Joe Beam, author of Becoming One: Emotionally, Spiritually and
Sexually. Family Dynamics offers help for troubled marriages
through interactive seminars and classes.
800-650-9995
WEB: http://www.familydynamics.net

Marriage Builders, Inc.
Founded by Willard Harley, Jr, PhD, author of His Needs, Her Needs,
Marriage Builders is devoted to helping couples learn how to fall in love
and stay in love...forever, and how to recover if your marriage
gets off track. At their web site you will find hundreds of articles that
will help you build and maintain a mutually enjoyable marriage including
a huge section on recovery from infidelity.
651-762-8570
Web: www.MarriageBuilders.com

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